So this may just be my favourite post of 2016 yet…
I wanted this post to go with how I felt about this outfit. Happy.
Before I start I am in no way implying that I’m the happiest person alive..I still get grumpy/ sad at times which is normal but I would definitely say that in the last 18 years of my life I have learnt to ‘love life’ a bit more I would say.
Being 18, still at school and having the whole world ahead of me some would say ‘well how can you NOT be happy?’ But of course.. Like everyone else there are still stresses and pressures to face. However, I think I am learning to deal with these a bit better.
Here are 4 ways I’ve found have helped me a lot to think more positively..
- Be Honest
This may sound so cliché to some as we’re always told to be honest, say what we really believe, however we’re also told to only speak kindely.. Some would agree with me on this.. not all opinions on things are positive. We all have some negative opinions throughout life, and the way I see it is, unless it’s going to benefit the situation/ person, then why talk negatively?
What I mean about being honest, is being honest about yourself. What I’ve learnt is that there’s no point in holding things in, for example when I’m angry I used to bottle it up and then cry hysterically at the end of a horrible week, however now… when I’m angry I phone my bezzie mate / have a bitch with my sister, and problem solved. It’s better to get it all out, talk to someone, show your feelings. The longer you hold it in, the longer the problem will eat away at you. You never know how the other person may be feeling the same, or if they have been through it before, it really can help.
2) Don’t compare
We are told this all to often. Stop.comparing.yourself.to.others.
I agree, it’s harder said than done. I always find myself on Jen Selter’s instagram page wishing that my body could look half as good as hers..
and that’s normal, we’ve all been there.
However, it’s not all as it seems. I’ve definitely been in situations, especially recently, when you look at someone and think ‘wow. you have the perfect life. absolutely gorgeous, lovely boyfriend and so smart’… yet you never know what’s REALLY going on. I think one of the reasons why I don’t get jealous of people is because I understand that no one is perfect, people can always change their persona in front of others to appear happier, more confident..when in reality, they’re not happy deep down. You never know what goes on behind close doors, so never look at someone’s body image/ instagram page/ smile and think they have it all.. chances are they’re fighting a hard battle that they disguise, just as everyone else.. so always be kind.
Now as I’ve said before I’m not a confrontational person unless needs be, luckily I surround myself with a small circle of lovely people who have similar interests, passions etc..
However, one thing I have come to realise is that no one is perfect. People make mistakes. Even the loveliest people mess up, say stupid things they don’t mean, and it doesn’t make them a bad person. I’ve definitely found that people who get angry easily have something else factoring in that you’re unaware of that has led to them getting angry. If someone in your life messes up, does something bad, yes by all means call them out on it, but holding onto that grudge once they’ve learnt from their mistake will only hinder YOU. If someone cuts you up on a roundabout, that person will carry on driving and YOU will be the one left angry at the wheel for the rest of the day. Sometimes you just need to let it go. It is hard to not get wound up by the smallest of things but by forgiving and moving on, you are not holding onto those negative feelings, which will only hold you back.
Hope is such a massive thing to me. We all have it.. hope that everything works out okay, hope that one day we will get our dream job, car, husband.. children etc. It’s the one thing that keeps me going.
I love falling to sleep thinking of how my life COULD turn out, and keeping this hope inside of me, knowing the life I could lead, makes me want it even more. I truly believe that everyone has hopes and dreams, but some people are just too scared to go for it. If you have a dream, then why shouldn’t you pursue it?!
When talking about Uni to my friends I am always saying to them what do you REALLY want to do? A few years ago I was actually thinking of doing History/ Politics at Uni and even thought of doing an English Degree, however deep down I knew that all I would ever enjoy at Uni was studying Fashion. I don’t know why I never voiced this, but it wasn’t until last year my parents asked me why I’ve not thought of it. I just never thought it was possible. I had always dreamt of living in London, doing something to do with fashion, and because I started my blog, worked hard at my hobby, I was able to get offers from Uni’s to study Fashion Management. Without even realising it, the things I dreamt of at 15/ 16 were now coming true!
I’m not saying that these are the most important elements of being happy.. obviously having a wonderful family/ friend support system around you is a massive key..
For me, what I needed was to change my mindset. If everytime someone said a harsh comment or criticised me i held onto it, i wouldn’t have gotten anywhere. It’s so important to stay positive, see the good in everything and not to judge people until you’ve walked a mile in their shoes.
Hope this post has been a lil helpful, I’ve enjoyed writing it so much!
Lots of love,